This paper aims at addressing the relationship between the erotic and identity in contemporary societies, focusing on female homosexuality. Since the emergence of the modernity, western societies have been culturally developed making use of high levels of reflectivity. The questions about the place that each individual occupies in the society is becoming increasingly important, and understanding the experiences of sexuality seems to converge with the identity (re)development of male and female worlds. Over time, it was constructed the idea of sexuality as a male domain, in which the intercourse between man and woman delimited the sexual act par excellence. Therefore, the dominant representations of femininity were organized into two extremes: the sexual voracity of the “easy” woman and the sexual inappetency of the respectable woman. The symbolic monopolization undertaken by the male in the realm of sexuality led to, firstly, the sidelining of female eroticism, and secondly, the affirmation of the profile of the lesbian as a manly woman, a non-woman. Although the female homosexuality is not a recent reality, it persists the belief in the heterosexuality as the dominant model of female sexuality. Thus, this paper presents a conceptualization of the terms eroticism and sexuality, highlighting differences and similarities between them. It also proposes a sociological analysis of the process of social developing of identities, from the theoretical contribution of authors such as Bourdieu and Foucault. In this sense, the empirical scope of this research will consist of life stories of homosexual women from different social sectors, pointing how the homosexual erotic experience reveals a process of (re)constructions of identity that illustrates the incorporation of (re)invention practices of gender and female sexuality.